September 8th is National Grandparent’s Day. Happy Grandparent’s Day to all the grandparents, have and wonderful day and give your grandchildren a big hug! If that’s not possible call them over the phone and give them phone hugs or hopefully they’ll call you. Here’s a nice story.
Grandma May shared a wonderful moment with her granddaughter April, a toddler who recently became three years old. One morning just before 7:30 am, April called grandma’s cell phone. Grandma recognized her son’s phone via Caller ID, answered it and heard the voice of her granddaughter April, who asked “where are you?” Grandma replied “at work” and April replied “bye!” which ended the call. What a short and sweet call to get from your grandchild!
It’s so joyful to know that your toddler grandchild misses you and goes out of her way to phone you. April abruptly ended her call because she knows grandma cannot talk to her while working, a lesson and rule taught to her from grandma and her parents. It’s pleasing to hear how toddlers learn to obey their parents, an important rule that will help them through early childhood development.
At two to three years of age, toddlers begin to learn at genius speeds. This is their “Planting Twos” years, and all they need is the sharing, teaching and loving discipline of their parents and loved ones.
May and her parents Mark and Olivia, nice, “pat on the back” and way to go!
By Carl Okuyama
Starts at Home encourages parents with children under seven years of age. You’ve heard it said it “starts at home”. Children don’t come with instruction manuals. Starts at Home are people who love parents and children, who are devoted to helping children achieve the best in whatever God given talents they have.
Parents are empowered to teach good attitudes and skills like faith, sharing, obedience, honoring parents, reading, math, memory, budgeting, and other practical life skills. We want our children to be the best they can be, giving them the freedom to choose their path in life.
We believe that parents whether married, single, or custodial, can teach children and protect them against the temptations they will face in the world like, unhealthy eating, sexual permissiveness, illegal drugs, internet safety, selfish pride, and excessive materialism.
We have a lot of work when it comes to loving the children and encouraging parents. There’s a lot of traumatized children out there.. Charles Manson, a life-sentenced murderer, is an example; he grew up without the love of nurturing parents and eventually release his ugly anger. When Charles Manson was born his mother did not give him a name, later, his mother sold him for a pitcher of beer.
In the United States, according to the Bureau of Justice Statistics, “the homicide 1) rate doubled from the early 1960s to the late 1970s, increasing from 4.6 per 100,000 U.S. residents in 1962 to, 2) 9.7 per 100,000 by 1979, 3) in 1980 the rate peaked at 10.2 per 100,000, and 4) subsequently fell to 7.9 per 100,000 in 1984. 5) The rate rose again in the late 1980’s and early 1990’s to another peak in 1991 of 9.8 per 100,000. 5) The homicide rate declined sharply from 9.3 homicides per 100,000, 6) in 1992 to 4.8 homicides per 100,000 in 2010″.
The poverty of no love and rejection can lead to many forms of mental illness. With hope, faith, and love, we come to serve. We are a group of individuals, businesses, organization working together to help families because children are not born with instructions. For more information on this group see the Organization in this website.
We would be pleased to have you be part of Starts at Home, call us at (808) 937-4392, or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org. Have a wonderful and joy filled day!
- This article was originally published on April 4, 2010
By Carl Okuyama
Encourage a child with good faith, and you will be able to watch a flower bud blossom into a beautiful flower or a chick evolve into an eagle. Believing in your child’s potential increases your child’s potential in life. A parent’s faith and belief will help children to have faith and believe in themselves, thus enabling them to achieve their goals in life. In the educational profession this theory has been called the Pygmalion effect, or the self-fulfilling prophesy.
Know that each of your children are different, with different talents, no child is the same, each child is unique, like snowflakes … not one alike, so accept John being different from Jimmy. You may become disappointed when the career for your children are not met or they quit the occupation you selected for them. Instead, nurture their spirit to have faith and be pleasantly surprised with their successes in what they choose freely to do in life. Our love must be unconditional, nurturing, and disciplined.
Here are some words of encouragement.
“Ruth, you have a good memory.”
“Mark, you play the ukulele so well.”
“Deborah, you read well, let’s keep reading.”
“Kimberly, you want to do another math problem, that’s good.”
“Arnold, where did you get all your strength”
“David, wow you sure kick the ball good.”
“Jeffrey, wow you sure can swim and hold your breath a long time.”
“Johnny, you sure planted a lot of seeds, let’s be patient and watch them grow.”
“Justin, you sure can keep focused on playing Lego a long time, that’s a neat car you made.”
Tame Our Tongue not to Speak Discouraging Words
Discouraging words tear down a child’s future so we need to tame our tongue. When we seek to refrain from discouraging speech, we will find that it will be easy to do. Often, parents who were themselves raised with discouraging speech will follow the way they were brought up; it’s up to the parents to break this generation curse. Here are some examples of speech that will discourage a child:
“You’re not good at anything”
“You won’t amount to anything”
“Why can’t you get that right”
“Why aren’t you more like your sisters and brothers?”
“You’re just being silly”
Whether we’re raising our own biological children, adopted children, or those from another family member, remember that each child is different, with unique personalities and talents. Despite these differences, all children need encouragement and need to know that their parents believe in them. What matters is as parents, we whole-heartedly believe that our children are bright and will reach their full potential. Believe it, practice it, and our children will too. Love and discipline are gifts to our children.
Wikipedia – Robert Rosenthal is Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of California, Riverside. His interests include self-fulfilling prophecies, which he explored in a well-known study of the Pygmalion Effect: the effect of teachers’ expectations on students. From 1962 to 1999 he taught at Harvard, became chairman of the psychology department there in 1992, and Edgar Pierce Professor of Psychology in 1995. On retiring from Harvard in 1999 he went to California.