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Our Vision, Mission, Principals, and Goals

Vision Statement

Starts at Home – Train a Child in the Way to Go

Building the Family

Mission and Roots

Starts at Home seeks to elevate the community’s awareness of positive parenting.

Starts at Home seeks to encourage fathers to love their wives and together raise their children in a manner that builds stronger families and communities.

Starts at Home seeks to encourage parents, whether married, single, or custodial, in early childhood development education of children.

Statement and Purpose

We believe when we encourage, love and discipline children, they will follow;

We believe positive parenting starts early in life by teaching children age appropriate concepts before the age of seven.

We come not to judge but to encourage and share with parents and children.

We believe a parent’s love is the greatest gift to children.

We seek to build more dual parenting household.

We seek to have fathers share more of a parenting role in the household.

We walk in Faith.

Ten Basic Principals

1. Faith in God is the foundation of the home.

2. The home is led with loving parents sacrificing for their spouses and children.

3. Love is patient, kind, not envy, not boast, not proud, not rude, not self-seeking, not easily angered, keeps no record of wrong doing, forgives, not delight in evil, rejoices with the truth, always protects, trusts, hopes, preserves. Love never fails.

4. Children are taught basic attitudes and skill before the age of seven including: Love, discipline, sharing, listening, honesty,  memory, curiosity, sex, no to drugs, chores, safety, internet safetyreading, math, science, musicecology, skills, language, and manners.

5. Encouragement is needed to motivate and foster a child’s growth. Our words and actions will build or destroy a child’s future. Every child is different and has a special talent that needs nurturing.

6. Being too lenient is harmful and may produce spoiled children with super controlling egos, anarchism, and harmful pride.

7. When we love the children they will obey and follow. We want to prevent a child from feeling rejected.

8. Parenting is the giving of your quality time and not just financial resources to your children.

9. Encourage children to cook, eat healthy, and take care of their bodies.

10. Teaching age appropriate materials is wise.

Family Goals

For Parents

1. We are encouraging and a good example to our children.

2. We don’t give up and can make it through the tough times.

3. Promote a parenting revival for the future benefit of our community.

For Children

1. Come to parents for advice and to share their questions, concerns, and problems.

2. Follow and listen to trusted and loving parents.

3. Leave the home as contributing members in the community.

4. Independent and have successful family our their own.

5. Are respectful of their parents and grandparents.

This Vision and Mission statement was established on October 24, 2009.

The Implications of Child Abuse and Neglect on Child Development – Hawaii 4/12/13 & 4/19/13

Workshop Time (9:00 am – 4:00 pm)
Specialized Training on The Implications of Child Abuse and Neglect  on Child Development                
by Ms. Danielle Spain and Ms. Isha Charbonneau
Sponsored by P.A.R.E.N.T.S, Inc.
Workshop Content 
The learning objectives for this workshop are to gain the knowledge that:While physical injuries may or may not be immediately visible, abuse and neglect can have consequences for children, families, and society that can last a lifetime. The impact of child abuse and neglect will be discussed in terms of physical, psychological, behavioral, and societal consequences. Participants will gain knowledge and understanding of the long term impact of child abuse and neglect, and how to work with families healing from the trauma associated with Child Abuse and Neglect.

Speaker Bios

Danielle Spain, Parents Inc.
Danielle Spain, Parents Inc.

Danielle Spain has her Master’s in Counseling with emphasis in Marriage and Family Therapy. Since 1999 she has been working with families afflicted by child abuse and neglect and domestic violence. She and her husband are the parents of three biological children and four foster youth. She has extensive experience working with a number of social ills, including substance abuse, domestic violence and sex abuse. She is one of our Program Directors in East Hawaii.

Parent Educator Isha Charbonneau graduated from UH Hilo with her Bachelor’s degree in Communication. She has been a parent educator with PARENTS, Inc. for the past 7 years. She also strengthens families by providing in-home skill building for parents in need of additional support through PARENTS, Inc. She loves the challenges of her job and the interesting people she meets and works with. She is the mother of two school aged children.

Isha Charbonneau, Parents, Inc.
Isha Charbonneau, Parents, Inc.

Workshop Dates & Venues

Big Island Workshop: April 12, 2013 (Fri) 

Address: Glad Tidings Church, 113 Kuawa Street, Hilo, HI  96720

Oahu Workshop: April 19, 2013 (Fri)

Address: Hawaii USA Federal Credit Union, 1226 College Walk, Honolulu, HI 96817

*Workshop content is the same in both locations.

 Workshop Fees:

$65 for the whole-day workshop, $45 for students

**Light refreshments will be served


Download the Registration Form and send to Parents, Inc. office together with a check payable to”PARENTS, Inc.”

Please download and complete the Registration Form and email to us.

For inquiry, please call:

(808) 934-9552 for Big Island workshop

(808) 235-0255 for Oahu workshop

FREE – Ohana and Keiki Fair, this Saturday June 5th – Na Himeni – Hilo Civic

In this economy it is difficult for many families to go out for a day of food and fun. What a joy it is that the community can provide this for them and show children and families how much God loves them! The purpose of the “Children’s Fair” is to have a fun and wholesome event for the entire family with free food, free entertainment with Leon & Malia, puppet shows, Keiki ID, free games, prizes, drawing for a free car. (Click on the images below for more information) Visit the Starts at Home display at Na Himeni. A community event Na Himeni is sponsored by various churches, organizations, businesses, and individuals.

8:50 Opening Prayer/9:00 – 10:00 Children’s Praise and Worship by Glad Tiding and Elevate/ 9:00 – 10:30 Games/ 10:30 – 12:00 Center Stage –  Noelani & Cheerleader’s, Thy Word Ministry, Elevate, New Hope Hilo, Roddy & David./ 12:00 – 1:00 Leon and Malia & Keiki Calabash / 1:00 – 2:00 Open Games, Costume Contest Winner, Game Decoration Winner. Acknowledgements & Car Drawing/ 2:00 Closing Prayer

For more information call Hilo Missionary Church at: 959-9211.   Aloha Ke Akua!

Free Children's Concert - Sat 6/5 - Hilo Civic
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Correction, Time-Out vs. Spanking, and Discipline

Two different schools of thought exist on the subject of spanking vs. time-out as a discipline measure.   My wife and I decided to stop spanking our children when we observed them beginning to hit each other.  It dawned on us that they were mimicking our actions and that we needed to change our method of discipline.   Thereafter, when our children misbehaved, we  practiced “time-out” by having the children sit or standing in the corner for a period of time, and not enabling them to continue their action(s).

Sometimes spanking is used to discipline without parent’s exhibiting anger and used in private.

Should spanking be used it should be limited and done without anger as a last resort to break a non-tolerant behavior. The timeout method proved effective, as facing the wall not only stopped their negative actions but also enabled them to think about their behavior.

The practice of  “time-out” may prevent the dangerous combination of  hitting and anger, a combination that can escalate to child abuse.   Spanking often escalates, becomes a continuous cycle, and only serves to show children that their parents have lost control.  It’s very important for parents to be slow to anger and to retain their composure, the practice of “time-out” enables this.

The other important component of “time-out” is consistency, do the “time out” as soon as the child misbehaves and as often as is necessary.  As an example, in sports, players are benched for violating the rules.  The National Hockey League’s Rule 17.1  Bench Minor Penalty, involves the removal from the ice of one player for two (2) minutes.  Your home’s time-out could range between 2-15 minutes depending on the severity of the rule not followed.  Remember to keep your “cool” and not get angry, if you need to bring in your spouse or friend to give you a break, that’s wise as the child having a tantrum can be exhausting on the parent.

Your goal is to stop the use of tantrums by the child and not enable the child to continue this detrimental behavior that could continue through life.

Your rules and the importance of these rules can determine your home time-out durations, it’s up to parents to determine which rules are important, and very important.

The below is sorted from important to very important and how many minutes time-out could be.

Eating when its time to eat.                               2           2 minutes and no meal till next meal time.

Putting away the toys                                        4           2 minutes

Taking away another persons toy or object       8         10 minutes

Hitting another person                                      8         10 minutes

Not obeying the parent                                     10        12 minutes

“Time-out” and being alone in the corner of a room is a form of punishment and is the opposite of being hugged or hearing the words “I love you”.  Children inherently want to please their parents.  As a method of enforcing desirable behavior in children, “time-out” is an immediate,  more loving, and effective means of parental discipline.

In all matters, our love is the greatest gift we give our children.


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On June 27, 2002 The Associated Press released Columbia University’s analysis of six decades of research on corporal punishment linking spanking to ten negative behaviors including aggression, anti-social behavior and mental health problems. Continual spanking can have long-term negative effects.