Category Archives: Classes

10 Common Mistakes in Relationships and How to Avoid Them

I just read an email by Dr. James Dobson who said that “only 1 or 2 marriages in 10 will generate the intimacy so desperately sought.” That is so sad. It can be prevented, especially by avoiding the first mistake that most couples make. I will be sharing about 10 mistakes that couples make.

The session will be on Saturday the 19th at the YMCA on Lanikaula St. It starts at 5pm. Bring a friend!

Aloha, Leonard (808) 935-7050


Note: Leonard Mukai, PhD. and Cecelia Mukai, PhD. are affiliates  of Starts at Home and has moderated numerous parenting potluck dinners. The above program is excellent and highly recommended.

Strengthen Your Relationships

Professional Workshops on Identifying and Understanding of Child Abuse and Neglect

Communities are greatly impacted by child abuse and neglect. Our children are the leaders of tomorrow. This is a problem that affects everyone!

Join P.A.R.E.N.T.S., Inc. as they delve into two key topics that focus on identifying, reporting and understanding child abuse and neglect and age appropriate sexual behavior, as we work together to support and strengthen children and families.

Identifying, Reporting, and Understanding Child Abuse and Neglect
by Ms. Kathi Kreinik, MSW, ACSW, DCSW, BCD, LCSW

Speaker Bio: Kathi is currently retired after more than 40 years as a professional social worker. She has served as the Executive Director of both the NASW-Hawaii Chapter and Parents Anonymous, Hawaii. She also worked for the federal government in Family Advocacy. Her specialty is in the area of child abuse and neglect. She is currently the President of the Board of Directors for P.A.R.E.N.T.S., Inc.

Workshop Content:  Presenting a brief overview of the extent of the problem in Hawaii, understanding the reporting law, identifying signs of abuse and neglect, understanding parents who abuse and neglect their children, understanding the CWS system, and prevention and treatment indications.

Understanding Developmentally Age Appropriate Sexual
by Ms. Danielle Spain, Master of Counseling

Speaker Bio: Danielle has her Master of Counseling with emphasis in Marriage and Family Therapy. Since 2007 she has been working with youth adjudicated for sexual offenses. She and her husband are therapeutic foster parents for high risk youth. She has extensive experience working with a number of social ills, including substance abuse, domestic violence and sex abuse. She is currently the Clinical Supervisor for P.A.R.E.N.T.S., Inc. in East Hawaii.

Workshop Content: Developmentally age appropriate sexual behavior. When is a child’s sexual behavior within  the “normal” range and when does it cross the line into “sexualized behavior”? We will explore the basics of the “normal range” human sexuality by developmental stage.

Inquire at

(808) 934-9552
Hilo, Big Island
(808) 235-0255
Honolulu, Oahu
Starts at Home thanks PARENTS Inc.  for their support at a Starts at Home parenting pot-luck dinner program, teaching about child abuse and sex education. Their professional programs are well attended and is a excellent training program for child development professional and empowered parents. We wish them well and much success; it’s about our children’s successful future.

Parenting Pot Luck Dinner and Program – How to motivate parents to want to be involved and nurturing parents?‏ by Dr. Laura Kauffman

Dr. Laura Kauffman

Starts at Home invites you to a Parenting Pot Luck Dinner on Tuesday, August 9, 2011, 5:00 pm – 8:00 pm.  Our guest speaker will be Dr. Laura Kauffman who will be joining us through a live Skype telephone call on projection screen.   Dr. Kauffman will speak on the challenging subjectHow to motivate parents to want to be involved and nurturing parents?  Also, Q & A Time to answer questions you have pertaining to parenting.  Program starts at 6:00 pm HST.

Dr. Kauffman is a Senior Program Manager at, a free website for parents; she helps maintain integrity on the site, assuring that all parenting information and tips are based in a solid foundation of evidence of what works.  Dr. Kauffman received her training and education from Stanford University, she specializes in helping kids and teens cope with internalizing problems (meaning to turn the pain inward), such as depression, anxiety, and eating disorders.

We hope you, your family, and friends will join us.

Moderator(s):                            Carl Okuyama, Leonard Mukai, Ph.D.

Date:                                         Tuesday, August 9, 2011

Time:                                        5:00 pm to 8:00 pm

Cost:                                         Pot Luck Dinner,  No Fees

Sitter:                                      Amy Okuyama (librarian) will help sit the children. If you would like to help sit the children, your assistance would be appreciated.

Place:                                       Carl and Amy’s Place, 1346 Kilikina Street, Hilo, located above Hilo Medical Center; take second left street passed Hilo Medical center – Lahi Street; then take first right – Kilikina Street; then drive down the hill .4 mile to 1346 Kilikina; on the left side; two-story grey and white colored house.

RSVP:,   or call Carl at (808) 937-4392, or Amy (808) 938-8977.

Starts at Home Map - 1346 Kilikina Street, Hilo, Hawaii 96720
Map to Starts at Home – 1346 Kilikina Street, Hilo, Hawaii 96720

New Techniques to Help Couples and Families Overcome Conflicts – Leonard Mukai, Ph.D.

Using Human Needs Psychology to bring rapid, sustainable improvements in relationships

Relationship conflicts create mental, physical, financial, and family problems. These problems include divorce, domestic violence, infidelity, depression, stress, and out-of-control children. These problems are so widespread that dramatic change is needed to overcome them.
The most effective solution is to treat the cause of the problem. The root of the problem is that individual needs are not met. This creates conflicts. The simplest example is an infant. His (or her) needs are very simple. He needs to be fed, loved, and kept comfortable. If these needs are not met then he will quickly cry or scream. Children, adolescents, and adults are similar to infants but with a few more needs. By understanding and meeting an individual’s needs, conflicts are resolved and even prevented. 
Tony Robbins and Dr. Cloe’ Madanes have developed a new school of psychology, Human Needs Psychology, and the Robbins-Madanes Institute for Strategic Intervention in order to give people tools to overcome and prevent conflicts.

Come to a free introductory session on Human Needs Psychology. It will include a video of a powerful intervention by Tony Robbins that restored a distressed marriage.

Place: Uncle Billy’s Hilo Bay Hotel
Date: Friday June 17, 2011, 6:30 – 8:30 pm. Registration begins at 6:00.
Call Leonard Mukai             808-935-7050       to pre-register.
Leonard Mukai,