Tag Archives: Parenting

Teach No Fear, Confidence, and Focus

Jeffo at the Banzai Pipeline on the North Shore of Hawaii
Jeffo at the Banzai Pipeline on the North Shore of Hawaii saving lives. “Best lifeguards on the Planet” Honolulu Magazine, December 2013.
Excel wet suit company hired Jeffo to model their new shark repelling wetsuit
Excel Company hires Jeffo to model their new shark repelling wet suit. Photo taken by Excel two miles off shore Haleiwa, Hawaii

Haleiwa Hawaii –  Today was Jeffo’s day off from his work.  While on the golf course he get’s a call to take President Barack Obama for a jet ski ride; he didn’t answer his phone.  Jeffo’s reply was, “missed a chance of a lifetime”.  Jeffo and buddies have built a good reputation “Best Lifeguards on the Planet” by Honolulu Magazine December 2013.

Here’s our son Jeffery Okuyama, aka “Jeffo”, doing what he loves doing best, saving lives.

How did Jeffo get this way:

1) Show them how without fear or reservations.  He started swimming before walking.

2) Dispel myths before the children watch the TV that may teach them fear.  A good idea was taking the children to the graveyard on a full moon to share with the children how peaceful a graveyard is.  The headstones were reflecting the full moon, we enjoyed the peacefulness.

3) During a freak 5:00 am, 80 mile per hour wind storm bringing the children out from their comfortable beds to show them this  “cool” experience and opportunity was a good idea.  Tall tree’s were snapping across the street; we just had to remind the children to be careful and be focused on what’s going on… think!

4) Prayer works.  After winning the State swimming event for the Butter Fly stroke, Jeffo calls as I’m out-of-town, he asked “I prayed before the event, did that help?”

Today, Jeffo is a water safety officer for the City & County of Honolulu,  “buddy doubles” as a stunt on Hawaii Five-O, swims with sharks in their caves, hire to do commercials, has a jet ski service business, gave Heather Locklear surfing lessons, and loves taking his niece for a swim or ride on the surfboard.  Jeffo remains quiet and keeps a humble social presence. He love’s what he does, we thank God for everything.

We have three children, each one different, with different talents, skills, with the same friendly spirit with less fear than many.

Encourage and train them in the way to go.  Have fun with your children and enjoy parenting.

By Carl Okuyama

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Our Vision, Mission, Principals, and Goals

Vision Statement

Starts at Home – Train a Child in the Way to Go

Building the Family

Mission and Roots

Starts at Home seeks to elevate the community’s awareness of positive parenting.

Starts at Home seeks to encourage fathers to love their wives and together raise their children in a manner that builds stronger families and communities.

Starts at Home seeks to encourage parents, whether married, single, or custodial, in early childhood development education of children.

Statement and Purpose

We believe when we encourage, love and discipline children, they will follow;

We believe positive parenting starts early in life by teaching children age appropriate concepts before the age of seven.

We come not to judge but to encourage and share with parents and children.

We believe a parent’s love is the greatest gift to children.

We seek to build more dual parenting household.

We seek to have fathers share more of a parenting role in the household.

We walk in Faith.

Ten Basic Principals

1. Faith in God is the foundation of the home.

2. The home is led with loving parents sacrificing for their spouses and children.

3. Love is patient, kind, not envy, not boast, not proud, not rude, not self-seeking, not easily angered, keeps no record of wrong doing, forgives, not delight in evil, rejoices with the truth, always protects, trusts, hopes, preserves. Love never fails.

4. Children are taught basic attitudes and skill before the age of seven including: Love, discipline, sharing, listening, honesty,  memory, curiosity, sex, no to drugs, chores, safety, internet safetyreading, math, science, musicecology, skills, language, and manners.

5. Encouragement is needed to motivate and foster a child’s growth. Our words and actions will build or destroy a child’s future. Every child is different and has a special talent that needs nurturing.

6. Being too lenient is harmful and may produce spoiled children with super controlling egos, anarchism, and harmful pride.

7. When we love the children they will obey and follow. We want to prevent a child from feeling rejected.

8. Parenting is the giving of your quality time and not just financial resources to your children.

9. Encourage children to cook, eat healthy, and take care of their bodies.

10. Teaching age appropriate materials is wise.

Family Goals

For Parents

1. We are encouraging and a good example to our children.

2. We don’t give up and can make it through the tough times.

3. Promote a parenting revival for the future benefit of our community.

For Children

1. Come to parents for advice and to share their questions, concerns, and problems.

2. Follow and listen to trusted and loving parents.

3. Leave the home as contributing members in the community.

4. Independent and have successful family our their own.

5. Are respectful of their parents and grandparents.

This Vision and Mission statement was established on October 24, 2009.

Teach Children to Cook – Let Them Try with Encouragment

Toddlers Learning to Cook, give them a change and watch.
Children learning to cook, give them a chance and watch them . Photo taken by Kimberly Ross
Making Fun Holiday Ginger Men Cookies
Making Fun Holiday Ginger Men Cookies
Mrs Claus Baking Ginger Bread Cookies
Mrs Claus Baking Ginger Bread Cookies – Photo courtesy of Amy Okuyama of Party Time Pals on Facebook

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It was a surprise to see this photo of our grand child Andee cooking next at the hot gas stove.  At first, I was afraid of Andee burning herself; she’s only 3 1/2 years old.  Mommy, Kimberly reassured me that it was safe and she was next to Andee each step of the way, from coating the egg wash, adding the flour, and slowly placing the pork cutlet (Tonkastu style) into the hot pan.  Kimberly happily said , “you should have seen the kitchen later, what a mess!”.  As a Christmas holiday idea here’s the recipe for Ginger Bread Men Cookies.

Children are eager to learn and they want to try; allowing them to try builds their confidence and knowledge.  It’s alright for them not to success the first time, it’s a good opportunity to encourage them to try again.

When we patiently train a child in the way go, it works!  It’s sure better than them always wanting to eat out at endless fast food restaurants.  Train them to cook and eat healthy, it’s also economical.  Grandma Amy, Party Time Pals, says, “children learn when you show them.”

By Grandpa Carl Okuyama

Love is the Greatest Gift

 

Love is the Greatest Gift

It’s not the presents under the tree nor the shopping at the mall that make the holidays and Christmas joyful, it’s Love and Peace within us we seek.

  • More than the presents under the tree, love is the greatest gift. “For God so loved the world He gave His only begotton son”. John 3:16.

  • You’re happy that your children are healthy, joyful, talented, and smiling . Sometimes they may not be perfect but pure joy shines through it all.

  • The children are sometimes rascal, curious, yet when parents speak they listen and obey.

  • The family comes together to celebrate the holidays and Christmas, each heart yearning to hug one another, or missing each other from afar.

  • It’s a time to forgive and leave the past behind and to not look back.

  • Grandparents, parents, children, in-laws, and family laughing and remembering times they shared, some memories a challenge yet worthy of life’s mysterious journey.

  • Then came uncles, aunties, and loved ones gathering to share the holidays.

  • We love that special spirit that fills the cold winter air with a special warmth and fire.

  • The joy you give when you invite someone who is away from their family and needing of cheer.

  • And, importantly first children loving God, secondly children honoring their parents.

These gift are more than enough.  It reminds me what my wife Amy Lou said,  “Love is like a piggy bank, if you don’t deposit, there is nothing that will come back; unfortunately some children don’t want to come home for Christmas.”  It’s never too late to start seeking the greatest gift, giving more love and your time this Christmas.

Happy Holidays and Very Merry Christmas!