Mooresville, NC. – See a great project Lowe’s has for parents and children. Their Build and Grow kid’s clinics are a great way to help build confidence! Bring the kids into any Lowe’s store and build a FREE wooden project. Each participant also receives a free apron, goggles, a project themed patch, and a certification of merit upon completion of their project. For event dates and more information and go to – http://www.lowesbuildandgrow.com/Home.aspx
Teaching music, reading, writing, math, and other talents, Starts at Home with a nurturing parent early in a child’s life. Enjoy your children, teach and encourage them when they are young, to reach their full potential.
In this economy it is difficult for many families to go out for a day of food and fun. What a joy it is that the community can provide this for them and show children and families how much God loves them! The purpose of the “Children’s Fair” is to have a fun and wholesome event for the entire family with free food, free entertainment with Leon & Malia, puppet shows, Keiki ID, free games, prizes, drawing for a free car. (Click on the images below for more information) Visit the Starts at Home display at Na Himeni. A community event Na Himeni is sponsored by various churches, organizations, businesses, and individuals.
8:50 Opening Prayer/9:00 – 10:00 Children’s Praise and Worship by Glad Tiding and Elevate/ 9:00 – 10:30 Games/ 10:30 – 12:00 Center Stage – Noelani & Cheerleader’s, Thy Word Ministry, Elevate, New Hope Hilo, Roddy & David./ 12:00 – 1:00 Leon and Malia & Keiki Calabash / 1:00 – 2:00 Open Games, Costume Contest Winner, Game Decoration Winner. Acknowledgements & Car Drawing/ 2:00 Closing Prayer
For more information call Hilo Missionary Church at: 959-9211. Aloha Ke Akua!
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Two different schools of thought exist on the subject of spanking vs. time-out as a discipline measure. My wife and I decided to stop spanking our children when we observed them beginning to hit each other. It dawned on us that they were mimicking our actions and that we needed to change our method of discipline. Thereafter, when our children misbehaved, we practiced “time-out” by having the children sit or standing in the corner for a period of time, and not enabling them to continue their action(s).
Sometimes spanking is used to discipline without parent’s exhibiting anger and used in private.
Should spanking be used it should be limited and done without anger as a last resort to break a non-tolerant behavior. The timeout method proved effective, as facing the wall not only stopped their negative actions but also enabled them to think about their behavior.
The practice of “time-out” may prevent the dangerous combination of hitting and anger, a combination that can escalate to child abuse. Spanking often escalates, becomes a continuous cycle, and only serves to show children that their parents have lost control. It’s very important for parents to be slow to anger and to retain their composure, the practice of “time-out” enables this.
The other important component of “time-out” is consistency, do the “time out” as soon as the child misbehaves and as often as is necessary. As an example, in sports, players are benched for violating the rules. The National Hockey League’s Rule 17.1 Bench Minor Penalty, involves the removal from the ice of one player for two (2) minutes. Your home’s time-out could range between 2-15 minutes depending on the severity of the rule not followed. Remember to keep your “cool” and not get angry, if you need to bring in your spouse or friend to give you a break, that’s wise as the child having a tantrum can be exhausting on the parent.
Your goal is to stop the use of tantrums by the child and not enable the child to continue this detrimental behavior that could continue through life.
Your rules and the importance of these rules can determine your home time-out durations, it’s up to parents to determine which rules are important, and very important.
The below is sorted from important to very important and how many minutes time-out could be.
Eating when its time to eat. 2 2 minutes and no meal till next meal time.
Putting away the toys 4 2 minutes
Taking away another persons toy or object 8 10 minutes
Hitting another person 8 10 minutes
Not obeying the parent 10 12 minutes
“Time-out” and being alone in the corner of a room is a form of punishment and is the opposite of being hugged or hearing the words “I love you”. Children inherently want to please their parents. As a method of enforcing desirable behavior in children, “time-out” is an immediate, more loving, and effective means of parental discipline.
In all matters, our love is the greatest gift we give our children.
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On June 27, 2002 The Associated Press released Columbia University’s analysis of six decades of research on corporal punishment linking spanking to ten negative behaviors including aggression, anti-social behavior and mental health problems. Continual spanking can have long-term negative effects.
WHATTT!!! You’re kidding, you want me to submit to my husband, no way! Does this sound crazy, an impossibility in today’s society? No, this statement is the foundation to a successful marriage where children obey, listen, and learn, and creates a loving and stable family that can weather the storms of life.
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Personally, I found this truth later in my marriage and now my marriage and relationship with my wife Amy and children has improved and continues to get better. As fathers we must love our wives, this is the cornerstone principal and secret of successful families. As fathers we take the lead, make sacrifices, protect, and accept our wives for who they are. We think we can change them, demand results, and require sexual exchange .. all wrong! It starts at home with fathers loving their wives. Without love, no way will a wife submit, nor children obey.
Husbands, let’s agree what love is: it’s spiritual, and inspirational. Love is what successful families are made of and the main ingredient in block buster big hit movies. Love is patient, kind, not envy, not boastful, not proud, not rude, not self-seeking, not easily angered, keeps no record of wrong doing, forgives, does not delight in evil, rejoices with the truth, always protects, trusts, hopes, preserves. Love never fails. Love is God’s greatest gift to you to pass to your wife and children, we pass it forward.
When I started practicing this concept my relationship with my wife changed. She was no longer a property or trophy, she became my best friend, partner, and wife. At the same time I started to use this concept with our cat Tigger and I saw changes in Tigger’s behavior. At that point, I realized that it was not Tigger or Amy that changed, it was me. The concept is simple, we can’t throw stones at our wives and expect them to follow; instead don’t be surprised if they run away.
On children, when children see and observe their parent’s loving relationship, they have an easier time obeying. Children are naive and don’t have a clue what is right or wrong, they’re all eyes, ears, and emotions. Children are like absorbent sponges, automatically soaking in material where they are placed. Children are required to obey their parents as they have no knowledge or wisdom, and parents teach them for their own good.
This period of children’s obedience begins early in life, if we don’t start early in life we miss the opportunity to plant good seeds into their existence. This is a time in life when the soil for planting is deep and rich. As loving, nurturing, and lovingly strict parents, we need to do this before the age of seven (7); contrary if we don’t teach them the world through media and other poor examples will teach them. Then the older they get the more rebellious they become. It’s difficult to plant seeds when children are teenagers. According to many social studies marriage dissatisfaction is the lowest when children become teenagers ….research graphs show it’s the pits! From ancient biblical writings to modern educational methods, time reveals to teach a child early in life and as they become older they will not depart from what we teach them.
Husbands and dads, it starts at home with an inspirational spirit encouraging us to love our wives, wives willingly submitting, and children following. Try it in good faith …. it works! God bless you and your family.
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