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Living and Sharing Aloha

Living and Sharing Aloha

The Aloha Spirit lives in us; live Aloha and pass it to our children.

Aloha makes the world a better place, it heals.

Love God

Honor Parents

Children Obey

Play and Teach Our Children

Be Friendly, Kind, Happy, Patient, and Caring.

Let Anger Go

Be Honest, Humble, and Modest

Eat Well and Keep Our Body Pure

Keep the World Green

By Carl Okuyama

Here Come #3 Child

Mom a few week’s before giving birth to Justin. Kimberly 3 years old, Jeffrey 2 years old, and Justin coming soon.

The year was 1983, Amy is at the Hilo Hospital and she just gave birth to Justin, our third child. Kimberly was three years old and Jeffrey two years old, they both were eager to visit mom and their new brother.  Like the saying “you never get a second chance to make a first impression”, before leaving for the hospital I asked the children, “we’re going to visit your brother, the poor guy has no teeth, no toys, and some clothes; do you think you can share and help him?”  Jeffrey and Kimberly quickly noded with a smile and said “yes”, Kimberly handed over a toy and said “he can have this”.  This was one way to plant seeds for a helpful and sharing family.

It’s now 2015, thirty-three (33) years have passed and Kimberly, RN worked at Queen’s Hospital’s Trauma Center of the Pacific, and Queen’s Mililani Emergency, she and her husband Christian just had their second child his name Cody.  Although time has changed the spirit of helping and sharing has carried on.  Now, her daughter Andee who just made three years old, in the name of building and helpful family is being promoted to a new and very important job – Mommy Helper. Congratulations Christian and Kimberly, you’re great parents.

cody and Andee first kiss

Andee gives Cody her first kiss, she’s been waiting for this day for months.

Teach sharing and helping others.  It’s good to facilitate the concept of “ours” verses “all mine”.  “All mine” promotes selfishness, egotism, and a may foster a bully in our mists.  A challenge for an informed parent is knowing the concept of siblings not wanting to share their mommy or daddy when new siblings are born, this can pose a challenge as the earlier born children doesn’t want to loose or share the attention of their parents to the new baby.  A suggestion would be mom or dad asking the children to be a Mommy or Daddy Helper, to help with small chores that give children the  opportunity to be with their parents and be complimented and encouraged.

These chores are performed together with the older child, newborn, and parent. This may take the form of helping change the baby’s clothes, feeding the baby, giving a bath, pushing the stroller, changing the diapers, going shopping, or other family chores together.  When showing the newborn to family and friends, you can keep the older child in the conversation by asking “Andee, uncle Justin wants to know how much did Cody weigh at birth?” Keep giving the children the attention they shared before the the newborn arrived. Keep up the great job you’re doing!

By Carl Okuyama

Andee's smile says it all.  Andee is now a Mommy Helper.  Yay!!!

Andee’s smile says it all. Andee is now a #MommyHelper and #DaddyHelper. Yay!!!

Lost Wallet Found

Lost Wallet Found

 

Tony Freitas is the person on far left.  Thank you Tony #gooddad

Tony Freitas is the person on far left. Thank you Tony #gooddad.

Before driving out of Walmart’s parking lot at 6:30 am, I realized I forgot my wallet at the Customer Service Counter, yikes, all kinds of thoughts rushing through my mind. What a terrible way to start the day!

About fifteen minutes later I get a call from the person who found the wallet, he came back to Walmart’s front of store loading zone and hands the wallet to me, wow, I’m so relieved.

A parent’s actions speak louder than words.

The best thing about the avoided disaster is when the father passes the wallet to me through the truck’s window and refuses to accept a reward.  Watching in the truck is his wife and their young son. What a great lesson for the son, who was just taught about resisting temptation, honesty, and service above self.  I saw and felt a wonderful feeling in the son’s and wife’s heart and eyes.

Thank you Tony Freitas you’re a #gooddad.  Best wishes to you, your wife, and son. Keep up your good parenting!

Carl Okuyama

Wishing you and your family a very happy, healthy and peace filled New Year

Wishing you and your family a very happy, healthy and peace filled New Year.  Photo taken by Karen Clark, Hawaii Volcanoes National Park, the most active volcano in the world.

As we begin a new year, make enjoying family time a New Year’s Resolution.  That’s a resolution you’ll not regret and the benefits are eternal.  Although you don’t see the benefits immediately, have faith and watch the fruits of your labor of precious time grow. We all need hugs and someone to be with. Here are some bonding and family time ideas.

  • Have weekly dinners with family, more often is great.
  • Do chores together and help one another, do family as a team.
  • Plan a vacation and travel together.
  • Look for special occasion to celebrate one another, such as birthdays, anniversaries, nation and local holidays.
  • Do camping trips together, enjoy the beach, mountains, snow, and outings
  • Enjoy sport events together.
  • Go to the movies or music event.
  • Play, teach, and listen to music and entertainment together.
  • Spend time with grandparents and family members who live at their own places.
  • Find a church you enjoy and attend regularly with family members.

With Love and Respect,

Amy and Carl

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