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Love is the Greatest Gift

It’s not the presents under the tree nor the shopping at the mall that make the holidays and Christmas joyful, it’s Love and Peace within us we seek.

  • More than the presents under the tree, love is the greatest gift. “For God so loved the world He gave His only begotton son”. John 3:16.

  • You’re happy that your children are healthy, joyful, talented, and smiling . Sometimes they may not be perfect but pure joy shines through it all.

  • The children are sometimes rascal, curious, yet when parents speak they listen and obey.

  • The family comes together to celebrate the holidays and Christmas, each heart yearning to hug one another, or missing each other from afar.

  • It’s a time to forgive and leave the past behind and to not look back.

  • Grandparents, parents, children, in-laws, and family laughing and remembering times they shared, some memories a challenge yet worthy of life’s mysterious journey.

  • Then came uncles, aunties, and loved ones gathering to share the holidays.

  • We love that special spirit that fills the cold winter air with a special warmth and fire.

  • The joy you give when you invite someone who is away from their family and needing of cheer.

  • And, importantly first children loving God, secondly children honoring their parents.

These gift are more than enough.  It reminds me what my wife Amy Lou said,  “Love is like a piggy bank, if you don’t deposit, there is nothing that will come back; unfortunately some children don’t want to come home for Christmas.”  It’s never too late to start seeking the greatest gift, giving more love and your time this Christmas.

Happy Holidays and Very Merry Christmas!

Black FridayThe melody “Most Wonderful Time Of The Year”  can be the most stressful time of the year.  With all the media hype and the pressure to give and receive presents, no wonder the FBI reports a jump in the crime rate in December. Have we lost the meaning of Christmas replaced it with Black Friday and the guilt of not having the money to play the Christmas game like seen on TV or social media? Children can sense the stress in parents, instead give more love and spend more time with the children; now that’s priceless, it’s not the expensive gadgets that are obsolete in a few years.

Alternatively, during the holiday season finding happiness can be found in teaching children to be kind and generous with charitable giving,  This could be a kind act of stopping to help a person in need, to making a monetary donation to a charity.  A study by Harvard School of Business “Feeling Good About Giving”, 2009, showed that people who gave charitably showed an increase in their level of happiness.

President George H. W. BushWhen George H. W. Bush was asked, what was his most successful achievement, he did not say Ambassador to China under President Reagan, CIA Director, nor the 41st President of the United States of America,  he said “my children still want to come home”

In the end, it’s not the money or “bling” that will make you sing, you can’t buy eternal peace and joy. Our families and friends are our most precious treasures, so give more time and love always.

By Carl Okuyama

Update 10.19.2014

Happy One Year Anniversary to Ryan & Stephanie Quinajon-Lau. Married October 18, 2014

Congratulations and Happy 1st. Year Anniversary to Mr. & Mrs.  Ryan & Stephanie Quinajon-Lau.  Married October 18, 2013

Congratulations! Marriage is one of most wonderful events in our lives, the bonding of two individuals to love and cherish one another,  to accept each other unconditionally, nurturing and sacrificing for each other, and to share the work and joy of raising a family.

Life’s road has its mountain top highs and challenges in the valley, marriage is about sharing the those high places and getting through those challenges to gain wisdom and spiritual strength.  Each person and couple are different and have special gifts in their own way. These couples are so beautifully happy together.

We wish you long life, good health, joyful children, and much peace. Yee Ha!; way to go! “Love is patient, kind, not envy, not boast, not proud, not rude, not self-seeking, not easily angered, keeps no record of wrong doing, forgives, not delight in evil, rejoices with the truth, always protects, trusts, hopes, preserves. Love never fails.” ~ 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 NIV

Mr. and Mrs. John and Lillian Ide celebrated their 56th Wedding Anniversary Saturday, June 14, 2014. When ask how they did it he said, “love, respect, and thank you Jesus!”

Starts at Home would like to share your photograph of your wedding or earlier photo.  We’ll share and celebrate your new covenant and joyful occasion.  We wish you much happiness and hope many children to come from your loving and nurturing spirit.

Married February 18, 2014

Mr. & Mrs Brandon and Pomai Longakit Bartolome. Married February 18, 2014

Mr. & Mrs. Jessie Curtiss

Mr. and Mrs. Jessie and Trixy Curtiss, Married June 15, 2012

Mr. and Mrs. Kurt and Arlene Fujioka. Married February 25, 2012, “soMaui’d”

Mr. and Mrs. Henry and Crystal Kalahiki, Married June 2011

Mr. and Mrs. Dustin and Ashley Malama-Poplardo, Married January 1, 2012

Mr. and Mrs. Christian and Kimberly Ross, Married November 11, 2011, Mililani, Hawaii

Mr. & Mrs. Ku’i and Amy Hanapai, Married August 1, 2011

Mr. and Mrs. Jason Ferreira
Jason and Sarah Ferreira, Married September 5, 2010

Chris and Sarah Leialoha – Married March 20, 2010

Grant and Corrie Higuchi – Married June 6, 2010

Just Married – Mr. and Mrs. Carl Cadavona, Married September 2010

Dad's with their children - Bonding in early childhood development

Parents love their children and want the best for them; our children become who we train them to be.  The wise quote below by an unknown Cherokee Indian says many things to parenting of children and the future of our communities.

The Battle Inside of Us – A Quote by Cherokee Indian

One evening an elderly Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between 2 “wolves” inside us all.

One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

Cherokee Indian

Source: Unknown

Vision Statement

A Parenting Revival

Building the Family

Mission and Roots

Starts at Home seeks to elevate the community’s awareness of positive parenting.

Starts at Home seeks to encourage fathers to love their wives and together raise their children in a manner that builds stronger families and communities.

Starts at Home seeks to encourage parents, whether married, single, or custodial, in early childhood development education of children.

Statement and Purpose

We believe when we encourage, love and discipline children, they will follow;

We believe positive parenting starts early in life by teaching children age appropriate concepts before the age of seven.

We come not to judge but to encourage and share with parents and children.

We believe a parent’s love is the greatest gift to children.

We seek to build more dual parenting household.

We seek to have fathers share more of a parenting role in the household.

We walk in Faith.

Ten Basic Principals

1. Faith in God is the foundation of the home.

2. The home is led with loving parents sacrificing for their spouses and children.

3. Love is patient, kind, not envy, not boast, not proud, not rude, not self-seeking, not easily angered, keeps no record of wrong doing, forgives, not delight in evil, rejoices with the truth, always protects, trusts, hopes, preserves. Love never fails.

4. Children are taught basic attitudes and skill before the age of seven including: Love, discipline, sharing, listening, honesty,  memory, curiosity, sex, no to drugs, chores, safety, internet safetyreading, math, science, musicecology, skills, language, and manners.

5. Encouragement is needed to motivate and foster a child’s growth. Our words and actions will build or destroy a child’s future. Every child is different and has a special talent that needs nurturing.

6. Being too lenient is harmful and may produce spoiled children with super controlling egos, anarchism, and harmful pride.

7. When we love the children they will obey and follow. We want to prevent a child from feeling rejected.

8. Parenting is the giving of your quality time and not just financial resources to your children.

9. Encourage children to eat healthy and take care of their bodies.

10. Teaching age appropriate materials is wise.

Family Goals

For Parents

1. We are encouraging and a good example to our children.

2. We don’t give up and can make it through the tough times.

3. Promote a parenting revival for the future benefit of our community.

For Children

1. Come to parents for advice and to share their questions, concerns, and problems.

2. Follow and listen to trusted and loving parents.

3. Leave the home as contributing members in the community.

4. Independent and have successful family our their own.

5. Are respectful of their parents and grandparents.

This Vision and Mission statement was established on October 24, 2009.

Leonard Mukai and Family

The Mukai family

 

L-R, James Long-Goth, Leonard Mukai, Amy Kessinger-Okuyama. Day at the Park, a family fun and educational event sponsored by Thy Word Ministry, March 10, 2010.

An affiliate of Starts at Home Leonard Mukai, Ph.D, has an excellent online program called No Parenting Problems. He and his wife Cecilia Mukai, Ph.D are giving this 30 day video presentation FREE to encourage and help parents;  he believes parenting “Starts at Home” and is sharing his program. Speaking to Leonard, his most distant viewer comes from Russia who found his lessons simple and effective.  Each video is about one minute.  Here’s a link to one (1) of thirty (30) FREE videos.
 
You know how difficult it is to teach a child and sometimes when we say “no”,  all hell breaks loose …. the crying, the pouting, the tantrum and tirades.  This video teaches us one way how to say “No” the right way.  It’s a pretty simple and cool technique; enjoy this one minute video.
 
To get started on this FREE program visit http://www.noparentingproblems.com;  the concepts shared are ageless wisdom.
 
Enjoy your children and family; encouraging parents and loving children starts at home.
 
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NA’ALEHU, Hawaii – It’s such a wonderful coincidence and feeling when you shared something about someone on social media that you never met, then accidentally meet the person.  That’s what happened when I met Robert Beck and on a another separate occasion his sister Wanda Pasco-Gionson.  Robert was so happy and proud to introduce me to his sister while shopping at Island Market in Na’alehu.  I could see the joy and excitement in his heart. Robert Beck and Sister Wanda Pasco-Gionson

Now, if Wanda is coming to Na’alehu to visit her brother Robert he tells me,  “She coming, she’s coming”; she lives in Honolulu. Below is the article shared on this blog on August 1, 2010; they have a wonderful story to share.  In the end it’s not the bling and money that makes you sing, its starts at home with your family.

Thank you Robert and Wanda; we love you!

Hawaii News Now, by Stephanie Lum – bioemail

HILO, Hawaii – We often joke that Hawaii is so small, chances are there’s someone you’re related to and don’t even know it. It turned out to be true for a Big Island man named Robert Beck.

The story of the 65 year old isn’t that unusual. He grew up in Ka’u, played football for his high school, enlisted in the military, got married and raised a family, but his whole life, he lived with a mystery he could never solve.

http://www.hawaiinewsnow.com/Global/story.asp?S=12874132

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